Books

Bernstein, Judity R. When The Bough Breaks.
Parent Review: Pretty good.

Bolton, Iris. My Son, My Son
Parent Review: Relates to the suicide of sons.

Burpo, Todd. Heaven Is For Real. Publisher: Thomas Nelson, Nashville TN 2010 (bulk purchases: [email protected])
Parent review: Information about heaven, the journey of a little boy who survives grave illness and recounts his journey to heaven and seeing God.

Burton, Jehu Thomas. Trusting God Through Tears. Baker Books.
Parent review: Very good!

Canfield, Jack & Hansen, Mark Victor. Chicken Soup For The Grieving Soul.

Collins, Judy. Sanity And Grace.
Parent review: Relates to the suicide of sons.

Cowman, L.B. Streams In The Desert. Daily Devotional Readings. Zondervan Publishing House, Grand Rapids, Michigan.
Web Review: I have given this book as a gift several times to people going through difficult times. People tell me that God really used this book to speak to them during their time of need. This devotional isn’t just for people going through difficult trials -it is an excellent daily devotional on its own.

De Ciacco, Janis. A. The Colors of Grief. Publisher: Jessica Kingsley.
Parent review: Understanding a child’s journey through loss from birth to adulthood.

Didion, Joan. The Year Of Magical Thinking.
Parent review: A thought provoking account of life and loss that every grieving parent can relate to.

Donan, Beverly. Just Our Notes: Daily Reading For Bereaved Families.
Parent Review: I love this little book. Every day there’s a story, poem, Bible verse from a parent who has lost a child. I’ve been reading it for 3 years and it’s falling apart and ther are page markers all over it. I got it at a TCF Confernce but you can order it. To order: Beverly Donan at [email protected] or write to Beverly Donan 6220 Island Ford Rd Hanson, KY 42413.

Dunne, Edward J, McIntosh, John L., and Dunne-Maxim, Karen. Suicide And Its Aftermath: Understanding And Counseling Survivors. (A Norton Professional book).

Edwards, Elizabeth. Resilience. (in addition to her life’s struggles, she recounts the agony at the loss of her 16 year old son in a car accident.)

Floyd Gregory. A Grief Unveiled: One Father’s Journey Through the Loss of a Child.
Web review: Paul, who was run over and killed by a passing car. I read this book after the tragic death of my 19 year old daughter. The author shares his loss in a very personal way…I could relate to his loss and felt that he would be able to relate to mine…

Fox, Sandy. I Have No Intention Of Saying Good-Bye: Parents Share Their Stories Of Hope And Healing After A Child’s Death. iUniverse Press.
Web Review: Nothing in life prepares one for losing a child. But for those of us who have lost a child, there is much to learn from the shattered worlds of the parents who have come before us. I Have No Intention of Saying Good-bye, by Sandy Fox, opens a window into the post-death lives of twenty-four parents who have lost a child or multiple children. Parents whose children have died often feel very alone. If you are such a parent, this book will help you see how much you have in common with other parents, and will give you a glimpse into how you might develop a meaningful future out of today’s darkness.

Hood, Ann. Comfort. W.W. Norton & Company
Parent Review: Beautiful book!
Web Review: Hood’s memoir of her journey through grief following her daughter’s sudden death is exquisitely written. Her writing screams with anguish and rage, pleads and begs for understanding, and totally captivates. She details the drive to make sense of what happened, from both a medical point of view as well as a spiritual one.

Hood, Ann. The Knitting Circle. W.W. Norton & Company
Parent Review: This is a fiction book but the author lost a child and I really liked it. She also wrote a non-fiction book listed above.

Hope In Times Of Trouble: Seeking Answers in Life’s Struggles. Published by Discovery House Publishers, RBC Ministries

Hsu, Albert Y. Grieving A Suicide
Web Review: I found this book and “No Time to Say Goodbye” by Carla Fine to be the best books I’ve read on the subject of suicide. Suicide happens to all walks of faith. I lost a dear friend to this tragic death, and these two books have been very comforting for me. I found the following words in this book very healing, “He fought an enemy that was as real to him as this casket is to us. This silent enemy exhausted all his courage and strength. Only God knows what he was suffering in his soul. But our consolation is that God does know and understands!”

Kenison, Katrina. The Gift of an Ordinary Day: A Mother’s Memoir. Springboard Press/Paulist Press. 2009
Web Review: From the author of Mitten Strings for God (2000), another gentle reminder to mothers to slow down and savor the joys of motherhood.. About motherhood, not loss of a child.

Kent, Carol. A New Kind of Normal. Thomas Nelson
Parent Review: She lost her child to life in prison- it is a powerful book.

Kushner, Harold, S. When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Parent Review: EVERYONE should read this!!

Lewis, C.S. A Grief Observed. (Recounts the grief on the loss of his wife)

Lewis, C.S. The Problem of Pain

Lewis, C.S. The Weight of Glory

McCracken, Anne & Semel, Mary. A Broken Heart Still Beats After Your Child Dies.
Parent Review: An anthology of writings by a variety of authors- from Mark Twain to Judith Guest- who are also grieving parents.

Mehren, Elizabeth. After the Darkest Hour the Sun Will Shine Again. A parent’s guide to coping with the loss of a child. Publisher: Simon and Shuster.
Web Review: After Elizabeth Mehren lost her daughter, she set out to write the book she most needed: one that would offer solace, support, and inspiration. After the Darkest Hour is both a guide and a meditation. The author takes us through the process of grieving, from the effects of a child’s death on the parents’ marriage to what to say when someone asks, “Do you have children?”

Moore, Thomas. Care of the Soul. Publisher: Harper Perennial (a division of Harper Collins Publishers).
Web Review: Care of the Soul contains exactly what is missing in psychology/counseling/psychotherapy; soul. Most of the counseling books I have had to read have been about as rich and as captivating as a Chilton’s car repair manual. Sometimes I feel that as counselors, we are out own worst enemy. Like a previous reviewer noted, this book is all about mystery, paradox, wonder, and living authentically and mindfully. This is the type of book that you have to let speak to you, as opposed to reading it and trying to figure out what the author is talking about, which is how most people, undoubtedly, have read this book. To do so destroys the magic of the soul.

Morris Coryell, Deborah. Healing Through the Shadow of Loss. Healing Act Press, Rochester, VT. 2004
Web Review: This book moves the energy of grief and helps to sort the elements of anger, guilt and frustration into places where they can begin to serve a healing function. Where many grief-related books are quite clinical and matter of fact about the phases of grief, this one is so beautifully written that it adds the power to touch one deeply and personally. I purchase these three at a time, and give them away when they seem needed.

Noel, Brook & Blair, Pamela. I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One. Champion Press.
Parent review: This wasn’t about children but it “spoke to me”. It was the first book I read after my child died.

Nouwen, J. M., Hansen, R. Can You Drink This Cup. Ave Maria Press. 2006

Nouwen, Henri J. M. The Wounded Healer. Doubleday.
Parent Review: Not all about the loss of child but about wondedness. Everything he writes is spiritually beautiful!

Nouwen, H. J. Turn My Mourning Into Dancing. Thomas Nelson, Inc. 2004

Nouwen, H.J. The Dance of Life: Weaving Sorrows and Blessing Into One Joyful Step

Rando, Theresa A. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. Bantam Books/Lexington Books/Barnes and Noble.
Web Review: A practicing psychologist defines grief as the normal, expected, and healthy response to loss and provides a realistic appreciation for the pain, frustration, and difficult work required to overcome grief.

Robinson, Rita. Survivor of Suicide.

Rosof, Barbara D. The Worst Loss: How Families Heal From the Death of a Child. Henry Holt and Company. 1995
Web Review: I bought this book after my daughter died suddenly thirteen years ago. It is the best book on living with the loss of a child that I have ever come across. I have an online support group for mother’s who have lost children and I recommend this book to all that I come across.

Ross, Eleanora Betsy. After Suicide: A Ray of Hope for Those Left Behind.

Sanders, Catherine, S. How to Survive the Loss of a Child: Filling the Emptiness and Rebuilding Your Life. Crown Publishing Group. 1998
Web Review: I liked this book for a variety of reasons. First, it has excellent scholarship. The author has 1. lost a child; 2. done clinical research on grieving and 3. incorporated the stories of many into each

Sarnoff Schiff, Harriet. The Bereaved Parent. Souvenir Press. 1979
Web Review: A book for parents at any stage of grief; whether they are facing an imminent death, recovering from the shock of an accidental death or caught in the long turmoil of the aftermath of a child’s death. Harriet Sarnoff Schiff lost her 10 year old son offers genuine understanding.

Schwiebert, Pat & Deklyen, Chuck. Tear Soup. (This book is in the children’s section.)

Sheeder Bonanno, Kathleen. Slamming the Door. 2009
Parent Review: Poems of power, truth, rage and beauty by a mother whose daughter was murdered.

Sittser, Jerry. A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss. Zondervan Press, Grand Rapids, Michigan. 1995
Web Review: I’ve read many books on grief in the past seven months. This one is one that every person who questions the unexpected, unexplained loss of a loved one must read. I especially recommend this for reading if someone has experienced tragedy associated with the unexpected loss. I found the book to be comforting, honest, helpful and reassuring. I understood in ways I wish I never had to know why the tragic loss of a loved one does in so many ways turn out to be a grace disguised.

Steel, Danielle. His Bright Light.
Web Review: I admit it. I’ve never read a Danielle Steel book. I’ve never been interested enough, although I know many people who rave about her. Her stories just aren’t necessarily my “cup of tea.” However, I was highly recommended this true-story book about her son’s life by a friend of mine. Not only was the story sad yet uplifting, but “His Bright Light” helped me to understand manic depressive behavior intimately as DS learned it herself over the years. I highly recommend this book for anyone wanting to know more about the disease, her son’s life, as well as DS’s life.

Whitmore Hickman, Martha. Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working through Grief. Publisher: Harper Collins
Parent Review: It is a daily meditation for working through grief. Honestly, I can’t fall asleep without reading the daily meditation. It gives hope everyday.
Parent Review: My copy is ragged now from daily use. It reaches to the depth of your sadness and makes you feel not so alone. We are now in the habit of giving to friends and family who have suffered the loss of someone they so love.